7.15.2012

Rant: Making the effort

Hi readers (if I still have any)! Sorry I have been bad about posting. Oops!

So lately I have been struggling with the fact that some people who I am friends with just do NOT put forth any effort to keep in touch. So in March, I moved to Greenville from Charleston. I left some of my best girlfriends there. I knew that leaving Charleston would be hard but that it would be the best thing for me. I do not regret moving whatsoever. It has been an awesome experience especially since I am finally in the same city as my boyfriend. 

Well, most of my girlfriends have been awesome about keeping in touch. Honestly, we don't get to talk on the phone as much just because we are all on different schedules and are busy so we mass text and email a lot. However, one of my friends has been super slack about it. I have always had to initiate the first text or email. Well to be frank, I'm sick. of. it. 

I emailed her almost two weeks ago and have yet to hear back. It was a personal email (not a mass one) asking about how everything was going on in her life with her job, family, etc. Now, I did email her at work. I understand work gets busy. BUT, if you get the email and read it and don't have time to write at length how everything is going, wouldn't you at least acknowledge that you got the email? And maybe perhaps that you were busy, but would text/call sometime when you weren't busy?

Did I get that? 

No. Nothing. Nada.

I had to find out from one of my OTHER girlfriends about this friend and how she is doing. 

This girl is a newlywed as of a few months ago. BUT, my girlfriends that do make an effort to keep in touch are both married and HAVE CHILDREN!!! You can't tell me that you are so busy that you don't have enough time to even acknowledge my efforts. 

So with all that being said, I have decided that I am not going to make any more efforts. I am going to sit back and let that person make the effort. I told my girlfriends about how I was feeling about this situation, and they all agreed. They also felt the same way about how it is very one-sided.  

I am not going to chase you around to be my friend. I am not going to force you to be my friend. If you want to be my friend, make the effort. SHOW me that you want me as your friend. 

Until then, the ball is in YOUR court. I've made enough effort. 

I mean do y'all agree or am I crazy??

Okay, rant over. 

Sorry for such a depressing, mad post after so long. I had to get that out. I promise I'll be happy posting from now on.

Anyways, hope y'all are all doing well. I hope to get back to posting regularly...if once a week is regular. I am going to try to do better! Promise.


xoxo,
Haley

2 comments :

Dana said...

blog more. and i rant on my blog too. it is my space that no one can tell me what to talk abut.

Sara Lynn said...

I completely understand! Been through that and you know what when I completely stopped making an effort the friendship was pretty much done. Some people will show you just how much you truly mean to them. Hope things are better for you and glad you still have some great girlfriends :)

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